It was just four months ago when I wrote in my blog about the aftershocks of cancer. One of those aftershocks was the fact that we may never be able to have kids or would have to wait five years before having kids.
That all changed today when Lis went to her routine checkup and her oncologist asked the following question:
“Are you and Kevin thinking about having another kid?”
Lis told him that we wanted to but weren’t planning on it because we were still scared and he had told her that we should wait a few years.
“If you wanted to it would be okay to have another kid right now,” the doc told Lis.
“Right now?!?” Lis responded.
“Well maybe wait until you’re in 2-years remission,” he replied, which would be in November.
I wasn’t there but when I got home from lunch she shared the news, sort of. I asked her how her appointment went and she told me that everything was good. Then my Mom, who was at our house because she watched Lukas, told Lis, “And what else, did the doctor tell you?”
And Lis told me.
I was happy, and my Mom was especially glad. In fact she told us if we wanted to go upstairs for a quickie then she would watch Lukas a little longer. Oh yes, my Mom is different, but silly. It was all in good humor – we think – but she would like another grandchild.
It’s a great feeling knowing that if we want to we can. Especially after thinking that we may never be able to have another kid, then thinking that we may have to wait awhile and would we want to have another one that far down the road.
I want to. As I mentioned before, and as you all know, I grew up with two younger brothers. Two brothers that are two of my bestest friends. I loved having siblings (most of the time) and would love for Lukas to have a baby brother or sister (gulp!). Lis grew up with two older sisters and a younger sister. When we go toBrazil we hang out with them all the time. They are also close to each other. We always said we’d have two kids – if the first one was a boy – and now that opportunity presents itself for the first time since Lukas was born. I want to, and I think I want to in the next year and a half.
It’s funny because for awhile I felt that I didn’t know if I necessarily wanted another child. Lukas has been perfect. As a baby he was easy to handle. He wasn’t a loud crier, he adapted to changes very well, moving from breast milk to formula with no problems, and he’s so darn cute. What if a new one came along, what would he/she be like? I know all kids are different, will this one be a shrieker and harder to handle?
But when Lis told me what the doctor said I knew how I truly felt. I was excited. I’m ready for the challenge, I’m ready to add one more to our family, I’m ready to take another step in our lives. I’m ready to have fun!
God really has a plan and I think he’s working wonders in our life. As I mentioned in previous blogs, Lis and I continue to attend church on a weekly basis and I have started attending a men’s Bible study on Monday nights. Lately I’ve felt better about myself, my relationship with God and things that have been happening in our lives, and to hear this news only makes me feel even better than I was feeling before.
Lis and I will talk about it and we should pray about it (something we have to work on), but I’m really looking forward to what our future holds and what God has in store for us.